What To Do With Perfectionist Captives?

Although you try to get rid of it, reality can never get rid of the prisoners of psychological demons.

If such bad melancholy strikes, you can take the initiative to master it and still be free from psychological constraints.

The experience of Joey, a 29 year old service manager, is that when she first prepares to make a public presentation, she always thinks of the smallest plot repeatedly, such as how his image, pronunciation, pronunciation and intonation will give other people's visual appreciation whether he has remembered the operation of Power Point for several days, and whether he will stumble at the foot of the stage.

The ending is also imaginable. Joey did not sleep the night before the public presentation, because she thought the problem too complicated, and the performance scene was too concerned about the reaction of others. There was a slight disturbance on the stage, and he was very nervous and unprepared.

Psychological comment: in fact, many people are like this. We always think that if we think about problems or difficulties as far as possible, we will be able to make us.

More perfect, but this is not the case, and mind what others think of it is more often seen in immature people.

If I speak more, others will think I love.

"I will do that, and others will laugh at me."

This idea of striving for perfection makes it a prisoner of others' thinking.

Most people will go.

The advice of people who are not qualified can even seriously affect their creativity.

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As a young comrade walking in (leading) positions, there is a good hand in the wind.

My former boss has a saying: "although everyone says that after 80 is not good management, but my practical experience shows that as long as we give a stage after 80, they will return to the company a wonderful."

Only in this sentence, how many young comrades feel "know each other" and then try their best to report it.

This is what I said a few years ago. Now we see that 80's have grown into the main force of a generation of business.

Whether they are willing or unwilling, the leading posts are senior, and they will become more and more of them.

Career guide ER has a tendency to like to engage in the topic of "new employees, fresh students". Of course, as a business, I can understand that this is an area with strong demand and easy access.

But as time goes on, generations of new people are climbing up their career path. They no longer need to learn to be a good employee, but also start learning to be a good leader and guide others to become good employees.

There was a process on my career path: the boss began to let me make my own plan and organize the resources to complete the plan. He told me that if you need resources, you could come to me for support. Of course, we are a small company. I very much do not want to think about that big market cost or anything like that.

Then I fell into a great pain, as if without a navigational map, I just took a compass and rowed a small sampan, and was kicked into a sea without a buoy. I shouted to my boss, "what do you want me to do? Can you say it directly?" the boss said, "I don't want to copy one of me, I hope you can surpass my level."

Now I will not give you the job you cannot do, but you have to plan for yourself and then organize it. "

This process is very painful. First, I collected other people's experience to make up a framework, and then made a lot of work in this framework. After finishing it, I optimized the framework in turn to form my own routines. But after doing that, I found that my ability, especially the angle of view, went up to a higher level. I began to see the needs, problems, resources and solutions that I couldn't see in pure execution.

No matter how big or small the leader is, the process is irreversible. Otherwise, no matter how title is, it will always be an executor.

As a young leader, no matter what level it is, there are actually several canons. The management below 10 people is a level. At this point, we need to understand how to gather people's hearts and organize resources to accomplish their goals. 20-100 people are basically at one level. At this point, we need to understand the balance between empowerment, management and guidance to ensure that the process of achieving the goal is controlled.